I love this kid. With all of my heart. I had him when I was just nineteen years of age, because – well, because I was just hardheaded. This is the kid that would stay up late into the night with me while I studied even though I knew that he was supposed to be asleep, and we both pretended like we didn’t realize the other was aware of the lack of ME putting my foot down.
Now, he’s almost twelve years old – I believe the picture was taken when he was a fresh seven year old. A whole five years ago. And those five years seem like an eternity.
Before I get started, I want who ever will deem it appropriate to comment to NOT come this way and start bashing my child, because I will not stand for it. I’m basically wondering about other parents who have been in my shoes. Not so much the ones with a child who is only five years of age, and still sitting in a time out chair.
We’re dealing with a multitude of things. Forgetting to hand in homework, a general disdain for rules, and just not completing chores in a timely fashion. I’ve mandated that Sunday through Thursday are no television/computer days, and THAT doesn’t help. And for those of you who may be able to read between the lines – my parents were not the types to do take aways as a punishment. Know what I mean? I know that they did the best that could, but it was always in my heart not to be as hands on as they were with me.
Now, I’m all for gentle discipline, but let’s just tell the truth. I’m finding myself doing a LOT of yelling. And a LOT of punishing, and being generally frustrated to the point where I don’t want to give anything for fear that he will take it for granted and just cycle back around to where we were. I will give some facts.
The cellist has been on the honor roll since he’s been getting report cards.
He’s generally a well behaved child, but gets a bit frustrated when he can’t grasp the concept of something quickly.
He has LOTS of enthusiasm for tap dancing, but no longer has any for the cello. Once again, if he is challenged too much, he shuts down.
He’s in the top groups in everything at school. Reading, Math, Science, etc…yet, he wants to quit them all.
He’s very lax with chores.
Now, to give good aspects of the cellist:
He is a great help when he wants to be. If there is something going on, or some place that he wants to go, he’ll clean a room to a spit shine.
There are some days where he’ll complete his chores without us asking, and without any other instances of wanting things.
He’s self motivated HIGHLY when it comes to something that he loves. Usually something that has to do with the arts.
He still likes to give me random hugs – and that’s important.
I’m looking for a bit of companionship in this area. Someone to tell me we’re not horrible parents, and to let me know that it will indeed get better. No lies, and no trying to make me feel bad for where I am. Mostly because it’s my blog, and I’ll just delete your comments anyway. 😉 Seriously though – will it end? And I thought that girls were supposed to be the moody, hard to get along with beings when they were on the cusp of their teen years.
So, HoNey’s let me know, will this end?