One of the things that I could see slipping away after having three more children after getting married was the ability to still go out with Shomari (lovingly referred to as Mr. Houseful) as often as I was when the cellist was our only child.
People volunteer to babysit for one child. Not so much four – let alone twins.
This was something that we had to accept, and realize that being able to go out freely was kind of an entitlement reserved for people without small children, OR with children old enough to look after themselves when their parents were out of the house.
Now that the cellist is of an age to babysit – and we have parents who live close enough to be able to call in case he can’t handle something, we tend to venture out a little bit more these days.
Lately, we’ve taken to Chicago Sky basketball games and dinner. Something both of us enjoy although I will admit that I still don’t know every call in the book. So far, we’ve attended three games, and our girls have won each of them.
There is something igniting about continuing to date your spouse after marriage. It ignites lots of things, and really cuts down on all of the nonsensical arguing that could be filling your time.
We still have disagreements, but they aren’t NEARLY as epic as when we first had another baby and then the twins. I will say that Shomari is a lot better at turning an argument around and making me laugh. I find it a bit annoying that he doesn’t get as bothered as I do about things, but hey, that’s why he’s mine.
I will be doing another post on 5 ways to date your spouse on a budget (or essentially, how to go out when you’re the parents of 4 children) next week. I hope that you come around to check it out.
So, are you longing for time alone with your significant other? Don’t worry, you can get it back. I promise.